Those of you who are familiar with the mind-body-spirit shelves of your local bookshop will have heard of the idea that we all 'create our own reality': that we can create the world we want for ourselves simply through the power of our imagination. All we need to do is to imagine the mansion and the limousine and they can be ours.
I'm damned if I can get this to work for me. What about you?
I'm not saying that such an approach can't work, simply that there is an inherent difficulty that often tends to be overlooked: it isn't all that easy to think entirely positive thoughts. Some people can do it - and I rather suspect that they will be inherently successful people, who will have the mansion and the limousine - if that's what they want - even if they haven't read the 'how to' books at all. For the rest of us, each positive affirmation, each "Every day in every way I'm getting better and better!" tends to be balanced out by a distant echo of "No I'm bloody not!" or "This'll never work!" or the heart-sickeningly common "I don't deserve it!" We fail to create a positive reality for ourselves because (arguably) our own negative thoughts get in the way.
A lot of writers market techniques to get around this problem by finding ways to defuse such negative thoughts. Some of these books may be very successful. They can certainly make their writers a lot of money, and many people may find that such things work. But they are inherently sticking-plaster solutions. They don't address the root source of the negative thoughts: an attachment to the idea of having the house and the mansion, of having and doing and being particular things in the physical world.
As I discussed in the previous post, attachment to such transient things will always lead to unhappiness in the long run. Even the brand new car will rust. The mansion will crumble away. Even your brand new TFT screen will finally flicker and die. Sorry - I'm going to have to pause for a moment while I wipe the tears off the keyboard. But do you see where I'm going with this? It's only when you can break that attachment that unhappiness can finally be overcome. It's only when you no longer care for such transient things that you no longer have such negative feelings about them. It's only when you have learnt - by following Eckhart Tolle's teaching or whichever path you may choose - to identify instead with what Tolle calls "an unfathomable sense of peace" that you no longer find yourself muttering those unhelpful negative echoes.
Why should you think "It'll never work!" when you say an affirmation if you no longer care so deeply whether it works or not? And why should you say "I don't deserve it!" if you no longer judge yourself in terms of your worldly acquisitions, if that "sense of peace" informs you that you have no reason to doubt your own worth.
It worries me here that I sound a bit like a street corner preacher, for they annoy me as much as they probably do you. But I'm not talking here about buying into some rigid belief system, which is going to bind your brains and bypass rational thought. I'm talking here about something which is real and which you can experience for yourself, irrespective of what you may - or may not - believe.
And when you are there, you can finally have it all. "When your inner dependency on form is gone," says Tolle, "the general conditions of your life, the outer forms, tend to improve greatly. Things, people, or conditions that you thought you needed for your happiness now come to you with no struggle or effort on your part".
Why is that? Because now that you no longer need them, you are no longer afraid that you won't get them. Neither are you afraid of losing what you have. Your negative thoughts are no longer pushing these things away from you. You can finally have your heart's desire - and you can enjoy it. Yet it is your heart's desire no longer.
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