The Law of Attraction, the idea that we can draw to ourselves whatever we want simply through the power of positive thought, seems to be all the rage at the moment, due at least partly to the success of Rhonda Byrne's DVD, The Secret. I know that a lot of my readers are heavily into this already, and, believe me, you have my support - but I have to admit that when it comes to this sort of thing, I myself am a bit of a beginner.
I'm also a bit confused, to be honest. The spiritual techniques I tend to use derive from Eckhart Tolle, Nick Roach, and indeed Sri Bhagavan, the emphasis of which are accepting what is. The law of attraction, and its central idea of drawing to us whatever we desire, seems to me to be an alternative - and perhaps conflicting - strategy. I'm not sure that there has to be conflict, but I can't get it entirely straight in my mind.
If you have any thoughts on this, please do leave a comment!
Some of the content of The Secret causes me further confusion. We are told that when we are imagining what we wish to bring into being, feeling good is important. If we don't feel good we should put on a favourite piece of music or think of something we like, and then we'll feel better and be more effective at attracting the right things.
But surely feeling good isn't always that easy? And if it is so easy, then why exactly do we need to attract all these things into our lives anyway? Isn't the idea that they're going to make us feel good? But if we can feel good anyway just by putting on a piece of music, why do we need all these things in the first place?
I also wonder whether forcing ourselves to feel good all the time is necessarily helpful. I've previously talked about dealing with difficult emotions, and part of the problem seemed to be that we tend to have emotions inside us which have long been suppressed. Don't we have to accept that it is part of life to feel such unhelpful emotions from time to time, at least for limited periods? That we need to feel these emotions and allow them to be released? If we're trying to feel good all the time, aren't we simply suppressing such emotions and storing them up to cause problems in the future?
I feel a bit bad about writing this post, because I guess people come here for positive stuff and here am I being a bit negative for once. So let me make clear that I do believe in the law of attraction. If you're on a roll with it and you're making it work for you, then that's brilliant. The last thing I want to do is to stop you - you're doing a brilliant job! I guess my concern is really with people like me who have difficulty with this thing. It's not the law of attraction that's the problem so much as our ability to make the thing work!
A lot of it is down to attachment really. I've written about this before in a previous post, How To Have It All. The basic problem is that if we're really attached to getting something, any positive thoughts we put out to try to attract it to us are likely to be cancelled out by negative thoughts such as 'This'll never work!' or 'I don't deserve it!'. Only when we can lose such attachments and connect instead with the universe, with the wonderful source of energy I keep talking about in this blog, do we realize that our happiness does not need to be dependent upon such material things. Only then can our happiness be assured.
Then, when we no longer need them, good things will come along, because we are no longer putting out the negative, anxious thoughts which help to keep them away. (I hope this makes sense! I may have explained it more clearly in the post I mentioned above.)
So this is the path I'm going for myself: accepting what is, releasing stored up emotions, and tuning into the universe. Then whatever I want will be mine when I know that I no longer need it.
But you don't have to listen to me! If the law of attraction is working for you, that 's brilliant. This blog is not about trying to impose specific belief systems on people. You have to find the truth that is right for you. And we are all working with the same energy anyway. The energy you tune into when you are imagining what you want is the same energy I tune into when I relax and accept what is. We are coming to the same thing from different angles.
But when the connection is made, it is effortless. When it all seems to flow, you know you are doing it right!
If you are working with the law of attraction and it doesn't seem to be flowing, however; if you feel negative energy creeping in and you're beating yourself up because you can't feel good all the time, then maybe you need to think about changing your strategy: not to abandon the law of attraction altogether but perhaps to choose the specific techniques you use more carefully. Because in spite of what I've written here, I'm going to go for the law of attraction myself - alongside my other spiritual practices - but what I'm going to concentrate on are three specific easy techniques, two of which are mentioned on The Secret DVD and one of which isn't. Call it 'positive thinking for negative people' if you like! I'll talk about these techniques and why I've chosen them in a future series of posts.
In the meantime, if you have any thoughts on any of this, please leave a comment - I am looking for guidance myself!
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