I'm always interested to check my Stats and see what people who come to my blog have been searching for. Sometimes, I'm afraid to say, it's clear that it's all been a terrible waste of time. I can only send apologies to those who were lured to my earlier post on The Taste of Tomatoes in search of gardening tips - and to those who ended up at my recent offering, Between One Moment And The Next, in a futile search for details of camp sites in the north of England. As to those come searching for something closer to what I'm really on about here, I always hope that they find something really useful here at my blog - but I rarely have chance to find out. It's usually my fellow bloggers and a few friends who leave comments - Googlers rarely do, and my Stats don't provide me with any contact details so that I can get in touch with these people to say "Hi!" This is all well and good, of course - from a data control and privacy point of view - but just occasionally I'd really like to know.
The other day, for instance, someone came here after a Google search for "what Eckhart Tolle says about worry" and I really hope they found what they were looking for, because what Eckhart says about worry is one of the most liberating things I've ever learned from him. I did cover the subject in my earlier post Making Plans, but the 'worry' bit wasn't exactly headlined so they may have missed it.
Never mind: better late then never. So - ta da! - here is my official "what Eckhart Tolle says about worry" post, specially for the next person who comes searching for this on Google - and for you, of course, especially if you've been feeling the burden of these uncertain times.
The gist of what Eckhart says - and pay attention here, because this could change your life - is that worry isn't important. Worry seems to be important but it really isn't! Worry serves no purpose whatsoever, so you may as well just forget all about it. Seriously.
Does that make you feel better? It certainly makes me feel better. I've spent my life feeling that when I have a problem looming, I have to worry about it. I have a duty to worry about it. If I don't worry, I am being irresponsible.
In actual fact, the opposite is true. You have a duty not to worry. You have a duty to lift that burden from your shoulders and focus on enjoying your life instead.
So allow that burden to lift right now! Does that feel better? And this is the way you can live your life from now on...
This doesn't mean to say that you don't have to deal with any problem which may come along. You still have to do whatever may be needed. But you don't have to worry yourself sick about it!
All you have to do is to ask yourself if there's anything you can do about the problem. If there's no action you can take, that's it. Put it out of your mind. Worrying won't serve any purpose. And what you have to remember is that you have a responsibility not to worry. Why? Because worrying will sap your energy. When this impending catastrophe happens (which, by the way, it probably won't) you will be far better able to deal with the aftermath if you haven't worn yourself out with worry in the meantime.
On other occasions, there will be something you can do about the problem. If you need to take action right now, that's simple enough. Just get on with it! Then worry won't get a look in, because you'll be too busy doing. You'll be in the moment instead of in your head.
If however, the problem is less urgent, than the best thing to do is to allocate an appropriate time to decide what action to take. This may be right now, or later today or, if things are less pressing, it may be a week on Tuesday. Until then, you can turn your attention with an easy mind to the other things in your life, whether they be duties or pleasures, all in the safe knowledge that you are not shirking your responsibilities with this worry holiday of yours. Quite the opposite. Because the only thing that worry achieves is to sap your precious energy.
And if you're still not convinced that you don't need to worry, here's something else to consider.
It seems that your subconscious mind has more resources than your conscious one. This means that it will probably arrive at an effortless solution to your problem while you're busy focusing on, say, the gardening or watching a movie. So, when a week on Tuesday finally arrives and you sit down with a pen and paper to think things through, you may discover that the problem is already solved. We're very good at working things out on auto-pilot... as long as we don't allow worry to get in the way.
A few useful links:
I covered some other aspects of this subject in my earlier post, Making Plans.
You can find various Eckhart Tolle links here
Some recommended books by Eckhart Tolle are:
Thanks for your gracious link. And thanks for this: "All you have to do is to ask yourself if there's anything you can do about the problem. If there's no action you can take, that's it. Put it out of your mind. Worrying won't serve any purpose."
Worry is only a tool when the moment we realize it is in motion we ask...can I do anything about this. If so...move. If not, release.
Thanks Simon. Your posts hit us where we live. Thanks for the great post you offered at Goldenzen.
Posted by: Harmony/Goldenzen | October 20, 2008 at 05:34 PM
You echo the kind of wisdom that only emerges from life experience. Your readers value your reflections and references to people like Eckhart Tolle who offer their own perspectives. I have known "worriers." The reason I have come to recognize the energy of these people nad others is because I used to resonate these frequencies myself and learned to move beyond it. Awareness intensifies through experience. In my view, the truth is socmething felt. You evolve to understand feelings on levels that defy description in forms available to humans.
Posted by: Liara Covert | October 20, 2008 at 11:41 PM
Hi Simon.
This is a very comprehensive post on how to kick the worry habit.
Re:We're very good at working things out on auto-pilot... as long as we don't allow worry to get in the way.
Isn't it ironical how worry prevents us from having clarity on how to deal with our problems.
Somehow we have learned that worrying is useful! Thanks for the tips.
Cheers,
Miruh
Posted by: Miruh | October 21, 2008 at 01:03 AM
Hi Simon,
Worrying is one of those unnecessary processes that never gets us anywhere. When we worry, we actually make whatever it is seem bigger.
I like the fact that you mentioned we "have a duty not to worry."
That phrase itself lifts any burden one may have. Thanks. :D
Posted by: Alexys Fairfield | October 21, 2008 at 07:44 AM
Hello Fellow Blogger! When I read your post for 10/20, I had to smile, because I do the same thing each day on my own blog. And, I'm always searching for other like-minded bloggers ... I think you may be one of them! Yah!!
If you want to know more about me, check out my blog, Love Lives On ... also I read your post about Phil Bolsta and his wonderful new book. Check out Phil's post for yesterday (10/20) http://bolstablog.wordpress.com
Posted by: Kim Wencl | October 21, 2008 at 12:14 PM
Brilliant post Simon and Eckhart is completely right.......all worry is simply mind stuff and a waste of energy. I smile when I remember a quote I put on my website (www.peacenowhere.com) by Montaigne which says "My life has been filled with terrible misfortunes,most of which never happened!" Sort of sums up worry somehow!
Posted by: Sally | October 21, 2008 at 08:21 PM
Wise words again, Simon. I needed to be reminded of this.
I am a re-formed worrier..though at times, I do fall off the wagon. It started in childhood after my parents divorced. My Father used to say I "worried about not having anything to worry about"..and he was right. :O
Next I started thinking of the worst case scenario in whatever I was worrying about. It almost seemed to release me from my often over thinking mind.
Now I am trying not to worry at all..no scenarios, just do my best and let it all unfold as it will. I agree with everyone..it is mind stuff and a waste of energy!
The Power of Now..changed my life. :)
Thank you for this post.
Posted by: gypsy-heart | October 22, 2008 at 12:00 AM
I find that the best antidote for worrying is to gently bring myself back to what's happening right now. And to take a deep breath.
I find it very hard to get rid of worry permanently, but I do think interrupting it is useful too.
Posted by: Beth Partin | October 22, 2008 at 04:48 AM
Hi Simon, these are really the words of wisdom and so very true...keep up the good work!
Posted by: Indranee | October 22, 2008 at 01:54 PM
Hi Harmony: “Worry is only a tool.” Thanks for that! It’s a great way of looking at it, and one that hadn’t occurred to me. So worry is a tool and the mind is a tool. It’s only when they take over that there’s a problem.
Posted by: Simon | October 23, 2008 at 12:37 AM
Liara – Thanks for your kind words. As you deduce so perceptively, this post is indeed rooted in experience! I was – and sometimes still am – a worrier, but the knowledge that it serves no purpose is a powerful incentive to change.
You say: “the truth is something felt”. I agree absolutely. Our minds can guide us towards the truth, but only when we feel it deep inside can we know we’ve arrived.
Posted by: Simon | October 23, 2008 at 12:38 AM
Miruh – Welcome to my blog! You are quite right to point out that worry impedes clarity. That’s another great reason for not doing it!
Yes, thank you, I think this (combined with the other post, Making Plans, that I mentioned) are quite a comprehensive guide to kicking the worry habit, but there’s another level I haven’t mentioned. The ultimate way to kick the habit is to lose attachment to things: people, material goods, outcomes... If you have no fear of losing these things, then worry becomes redundant.
But this is advanced stuff, of course. If you can really get rid of all attachments, then – ironically – you have the universe in the palm of your hand.
Posted by: Simon | October 23, 2008 at 12:41 AM
Hi Alexys – Thanks for your comment. Yes, you are right, worry makes the thing seem bigger. More than that, it makes it seem *real* – and a lot of the time, it isn’t really. A lot of the time, the object of our worry is a only a fantasy.
“We have a duty not to worry”. Yes, that’s a very powerful phrase, isn’t it? And the great thing is, it’s true!
Posted by: Simon | October 23, 2008 at 12:42 AM
Hi Kim – Welcome – it’s nice to hear from you! Yes, looking at Stats can be interesting, can it? And also addictive…
I’ll take a look at your blog – and also the post by Phil that you mention. Thanks for calling.
Posted by: Simon | October 23, 2008 at 12:43 AM
Thanks for your comment, Sally. Yes, that’s a great quote – and I’ve a confession to make. I stole that quote and have used it in the ‘favorite quotes’ list in my sidebar. Thanks for bringing it to my attention!
Another reader, Linda, has emailed me another, similar quote, which I remember from my childhood: “95% of what you worry about never comes true anyway!” I remember that being quoted quite a lot, though I don’t remember people acting on it very much!
Posted by: Simon | October 23, 2008 at 12:45 AM
Hi gypsy-heart. Thanks for your comment! I’m glad that Eckhart’s teaching has helped you! As I mentioned above, I too have been a worrier – it runs in my family. “Worrying about not having anything to worry about” reminds me of my Dad. One time, when he was going through a rare trouble-free patch in his life, he seized on a slight squeak on his hi-fi cassette player. That's the only problem he could find at the time. We had to listen to it at regular intervals and tell him whether we thought it was getting better or worse. Eventually, of course, he replaced the player. But by that time, some new imagined ‘disaster’ was looming on the horizon…
Posted by: Simon | October 23, 2008 at 12:49 AM
Thanks for that tip, Beth! Yes, I think you are right. Interrupting worry can disrupt its momentum. I think that a good way to do this is to spend some time with friends. Afterwards, we can often see things in a different, less threatening perspective.
Coming back to what’s happening now, as you suggest, can also be helpful. I’ve been writing on Harmony’s blog about how to stop thinking by coming into the moment – and of course, worrying is just a particularly pernicious form of thinking.
Posted by: Simon | October 23, 2008 at 12:50 AM
Hi Indranee! Welcome to my blog – and thanks for your kind words! I just tried to visit your blog but the link doesn't go anywhere. Is your blog not up yet or did you get the address wrong? If you return here, please leave a working link and I'll come and see you...
Posted by: Simon | October 23, 2008 at 12:51 AM
I came over from Harmony's blog. I have been reading Eckhart Tolle's books too. Previously, I find myself so overwhelmed with worry. Sometimes, I felt completely paralyzed into inaction. Then I started to realize that worry does not serve a purpose. It does not help bring about a solution. It is best to focus on more positive things!
Posted by: Evelyn Lim | October 23, 2008 at 05:23 PM
ha ha I like that - "You have a duty NOT to worry" Nice article!
I have some amusing searches - I've finally realised many of them might be song lyrics they are looking for.
Posted by: Robin | October 24, 2008 at 06:17 AM
I find that if ever a string of worrying thoughts appear in my mind (particularly late at night as used to be the case with me) I use a technique that Eckhart teaches. Just ask yourself this question....."I wonder what my next thought will be?"......then see what happens! Just creating a gap in the mindstream is an awesome practice and works for me every time!
Posted by: Sally | October 24, 2008 at 12:28 PM
Hi Evelyn - Welcome to my blog! Yes, as Miruh also observed, worry actually gets in the way of finding a solution. It is totally counter-productive, except perhaps (re Harmony's comment) as a short-term tool to kick us into action. So if we're ever worrying, we really should be doing something else, either a) taking action, b) designating a time at which to plan what action to take or c) realizing that there's no action we can take and so getting on with the rest of our lives. In all these cases, it makes no sense whatsoever to carry on worrying!
Posted by: Simon | October 24, 2008 at 10:13 PM
Hi Robin - It's always good to hear from you! It sounds like you might get a lot of Oasis fans at your blog...
Posted by: Simon | October 24, 2008 at 10:20 PM
Thanks Sally! You taught me that one at your last workshop and, as it happens, I used it in the post 'Stop Thinking' which I did for Harmony's blog. I can see that it might come in useful late at night: a modern advance on the classic sheep-counting strategy. (I love your phrase 'creating a gap in the mindstream'!)
Posted by: Simon | October 24, 2008 at 10:28 PM
I used a technique today that (a) stopped me worrying, and (b) solved the problem I was worrying about. If you'll forgive me for posting a rather long comment, I'd like to write about it here.
On Saturday I learned a form of mantra meditation that I'm supposed to do twice a day. I only did it once yesterday, and I hadn't done it at all this morning because I'd chosen to do a bunch of other things first. One of those things was boiling the kettle for a cup of coffee, and for some reason that tripped a fuse. No problem: I flipped up the switch on the fuse box, a number of electrical devices flicked back into life, and I decided to boil my hot water in a saucepan instead.
After breakfast I decided to try boiling the kettle again, for no apparent reason. The fuse tripped again (I wonder why?), but this time the fuse box switch would not flip back up. Among other things, my fridge and freezer were not working, which would mean the ruin of food that I can't afford to replace, and my boiler was not working, which would mean no heating or hot water until I could get it fixed, and I don't know any electricians that might come out in an emergency, and I have to go out and teach an evening class tonight, and so on, and so forth. Worry, worry, worry.
For some reason I chose that moment to go upstairs and do my meditation. While I was sitting there, my mantra jostling for position amongst the usual stream of thoughts, a sense of calm came over me. Instead of random new thoughts bubbling up over the mantra/stream of consciousness combo, every so often a potential new solution would pop into my head. The name of a person I could call. Then another. The idea to check that the kettle was properly switched off before trying to flip the switch on the fuse box....
I must have been sitting for about ten minutes when that last idea arrived. At that point I got up, switched the kettle off properly, and flipped the fuse box switch again - this time, successfully. Crisis averted!
I'm not sure this is the correct way to do the meditation I was taught, but it was certainly an effective way of getting my worries under control. Without having stopped to do my meditation, who knows but that I could still be sitting at home worrying, calling goodness knows how many emergency electricians, and so forth.
Posted by: Pam | October 28, 2008 at 04:18 PM
Super post, Simon, as always. And another excellent one on Harmony's site...thank you for sharing your wisdom.
Until I am ready to quit worrying about a person, place or thing, I won't be able to. I have noticed lately, however, the need to worry has dropped.Drastically, in fact!
I think I've finally learned to 'turn it over'.
Posted by: Marion | October 30, 2008 at 08:01 PM
Hi Simon!
One of the things I like and find attractive about Eckhart Tolle is that he doesn't claim to be "channeling" someone *else*. He claims his own Voice.
When it comes to "worry", I wouldn't exactly agree on it being "worthless". It is of considerable Value to us if we Love "drama" and "misery".
For ~energy~ follows thought. Especially if that thought is fed repeatedly and consistently. Kinda' like a baby upon conception. The idea gathers ~energy~ of being fed by our concentration over time until it is birthed into creation for us to experience.
~Worry~ is a cause.
And having to face in experience whatever we were ~worrying~ about, is the effect.
So what maybe "important" about ~worrying~ is realizing our responsibility and accountability for what we are choosing to call into our lives, through the activity of the Law of Attraction.
Maybe it's beginning to "hit home" what I have been endeavoring to share, that we need not fear or worry about any ~crisis~, when we *know* that we have within us, what ever strength and power we need to respond to that crisis.
Duty? I don't EVEN like the word.
I AM Responsible and Accountable for how I use the energy of my life in calling forth the creation of my own reality.
Period.
And our ignorance when it comes to each and every one of us also being Responsible and Accountable, is what we're going to be working on over the next 23 years.
Imagine a lump of ore. Now imagine that lump of ore made into a silver chalice. 1st we have to extract the silver and discard the rest. We're going to have to heat the silver, pound the silver, quench it, heat it some more, pound on it some more, and quench it some more. Over and over and over until we have our silver chalice.
Now apply that understanding, to our inner levels, associating "strength" with the word "Virtue".
The cracks in our structures of supposed "authority" are already showing. The areas of focused impact will be our governments, economies, business and banking. And the issues will be those of ethics, integrity, accountability and responsibility.
It's science fiction when robots take over..."The Terminator". And I *know* science fiction is your forte. Ever thought about writing a story about a robot named "Corporation"? Whose ONLY programming consisted of stating it had one purpose and one purpose ONLY? To make a "Profit"?
Maybe our local and state 'authorities' would be ~wise~ to adjust the requirements for extending corporate status? Since it is a PRIVILEGE extended in the NAME of the People? And REQUIRE said "corporations" to pursue their "profit" in ways that are beneficial and aligned with the general welfare? As in, not at the public's expense and risk?
Posted by: Sue Ann Edwards | October 31, 2008 at 09:57 PM
Hi Pam - Your comment fits in nicely with what I said about us working things out on auto-pilot. My experience is that sleep helps with this (as in "I'll sleep on it...") but meditation seems to be even more effective. I often find that revelations come at such a time.
I'm glad you've found a form of meditation which works for you, as I know you've had difficulty with this in the past.
(In case people are interested, Pam studied meditation through the School of Philosophy, which I've previously posted about here:
http://secretoflife.typepad.com/the_secret_of_life/2007/04/practical_philo.html
Tuition takes place at the School of Meditation:
http://www.schoolofmeditation.org/
My understanding is that this form of meditation is identical to transcendental meditation or TM.)
Posted by: Simon | November 01, 2008 at 10:15 PM
Thanks for your kind comment, Marion. You're right that worrying can be hard to shake off, even when we've realized it's pointless. The only way to *really* ensure that we're worry-free is to shake off our attachment to things going well all the time. If we simply accept whatever is, then worrying fades away automatically. Perhaps that is what is starting to happen with you.
Posted by: Simon | November 01, 2008 at 10:24 PM
Hi Sue Ann - Yes, thanks for pointing out the implications of worrying for the law of attraction. The fact that we actually tend to *attract* what we worry is another excellent reason for giving it up!
I understand what you say about 'duty'. It's not exactly a self-empowering concept! What I was trying to do in the post was to simply accept that some of us *do* have feelings of duty and turn them round so that they serve us instead of working against us: to feel a duty *not* to worry instead of the opposite. But I accept that this is only a mid-way stage to *really* giving up worrying. Ultimately, we have to learn to accept what is.
Requiring the banks 'to pursue their "profit" in ways that are beneficial and aligned with the general welfare' is a great idea - and exactly what the government here in Britain tried to do when it bailed them out a few weeks ago. There were various restrictions to the bonuses they could pay and requirements to offer the level of borrowing our economy needs to rebuild. The trouble is that it looks like it's going to be hard to enforce in practice. The banks are already finding loopholes in the small print.
Posted by: Simon | November 01, 2008 at 10:42 PM
Smiling...
In business law it is known as "unconscionable" or "inconscionable". It is when a party to a contract takes advantage of the other party's ignorance, including lack of education and experience in dealing with business issues at the level being conducted. Which is what has been done to "John Q. Public" in relation to lending practices and building an economy itself based on credit spending.
It hasn't been ~wise~ to create "entities" with no Souls, no humanitarian conscience. With no accountability or responsibility for the "entity's" choices and consequences of those choices.
I Am Accountable to my Self. And I Am Responsible to my Self. The Self whose Voice speaks through my Heart. That Voice, is the voice of Spiritual Sovereignty in all our lives.
Our *habits* are *hard* to break and ~worrying~ is one of them. But the only we we can *break* a habit, is to substitute a new one in its place. We replace one pattern with another, which can only be done when in the middle on experiencing the old pattern. Consciously, or else, it is not integrated in understanding.
In accepting what ~worry~ Is, we *know* right away, it is a tone of *fear*. Identifying this tone of *fear* IMMEDIATELY lets us *know*
NOT TO LISTEN TO IT and NOT TO BELIEVE ONE WORD OF IT. "Get thee behind me Satan".
Like this: "I AM asking to see the Love in this experience."
Before we had watches, we used sundials. The way sundials worked is that any time it wasn't high noon, anytime the dial wasn't in exact alignment with the rays of light from the sun, the length and direction of the shadow, indicated the time.
...
Anytime we imagine we see shadows, as when our feelings are those of a tone of *fear*, then whatever the reality we've got going on inside our heads, is not ALIGNED or INTEGRATED with Spiritual Realities or the "Greater Reality".
Creating a Reality that IS aligned and integrated with Spiritual Realities or the Greater Reality is WHAT "Oneness" is ALL ABOUT.
Before I can live a Reality of "Oneness" with you or anyone else, I have to have realized that "Oneness" myself for myself.
And that is why so much inspiration and motivation to look within, rather then outside of ourselves for solutions, is what is happening to all of us. So we will begin to establish this inner connectedness, this "oneness" of Personality and Spirit.
Doors and windows closing for us on the outside, is ALWAYS a creation of our Soul's desire to connect with Us.
Posted by: Sue Ann Edwards | November 02, 2008 at 09:13 PM
"I AM asking to see the Love in this experience."
Thanks, Sue Ann. I'll remember that.
Posted by: Simon | November 05, 2008 at 10:53 PM
How can live
Posted by: | December 02, 2008 at 04:24 PM
Hi Anonymous - Your comment concerns me but I can't really be sure what question you're asking or where you're coming from here. I think the best advice I can give is to read Eckhart Tolle's book 'Practicing The Power Of Now'. It's a very practical, short book which will help you to understand the reason for any pain you may be suffering and how to take steps to deal with it: to live your life in an entirely different way. You can get it from your local branch of the online store Amazon. Do give it a try. Love and blessings to you - Simon
Posted by: Simon | December 02, 2008 at 05:29 PM
sweet post
Posted by: Joey | September 12, 2011 at 10:35 PM
Thanks, Joey - good to hear from you!
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